WHAT IS DATE COACHING? 

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Date coaching helps you successfully find love by identifying your strengths, and taking a close look at the barriers that impede you from bringing lasting love into your life. Maybe you had early family experiences that set the stage for choosing men who were bad for you (unavailable; controlling; self-absorbed). Maybe you’ve been told you that you’re “too independent”; “too focused on your career”; or had “unrealistic expectations”. It’s common to be strong and secure in other areas of life, but perplexed when it comes to love.

In the initial phase of coaching, we’ll get to know you - through an extensive questionnaire, personal interview, and some assessments that include your personality type, temperament, and relationship style. From there, you will a discover the narrative of your life story, and the way in which you made sense of your life experiences. We’ll look at both the positive and negative messages and beliefs you tell yourself, and your perspective/attitudes about life. Not only does it give us insight into your choice in partners, it enables us to create a model of the great guy you’ve been looking for, and passing up.

 

What exactly are the challenges that can hold us back from finding love? 

Women share the areas that they need help wi: 

  • Understanding what men want and how they think about dating, intimacy and courtship

  • Flirting and all that goes into it / being approachable when he flirts

  • Dealing with their inner critic & self-judgment

  • Learning how to do online dating successfully (yes, it can and does work)

  • Regaining your self-confidence to take charge of your love life

  • How to assess a date to determine if he has what it takes to be a potential partner

  • Understanding how to stay safe on a date and the right timing to invite a man into your home

What else do most women want to how to do?

Date successfully online and offline
Detect red flags from the first contact
Create a standout first impression—let’s face it, he needs to be attracted first before he can fall in love with the fantastic woman you are underneath
Establish boundaries
Body Language—65% of everything we communicate is nonverbal, 27% through our voice, and 7% through our actual words

Most of us get very anxious before a first date but we have to remember that the only purpose of a first date is to get a second date (unless you saw red flags everywhere using my partner potential rating technique).  That's it. You will bring your know-how of being a great date, while at the same time taking charge of determining whether this is someone you want to see again. So relax and enjoy the experience. It's not about whether he is the one you want to marry. 

Now that you're clear it isn't about marrying this person you're meeting on a first date you can breathe a deep sigh of relief, right?  Listen, we can all know something in our head, but worry anyway. Date coaching can help you ease the stress of what to expect on a first date so you can be your very best self (which translates into the most attractive version of yourself) on the date. Ultimately, it's about feeling empowered. When we worry, we get anxious and we get desperate.  My role as your date coach is to help you become more confident and enjoy yourself. 

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