"Having never been married, I now "get" why my relationships were so messed up and I kept choosing the exact men I wanted to avoid! I've never been very confident in the dating department, and tended to settle. Dr. Sue's coaching not only taught me about dating, but a lot about how to trust myself more. I never thought I'd learn how to flirt, but I'm getting there. Dr. Sue created the perfect online dating profile and helped with photos, including clothing, hair, and makeup (she even sent the first couple of emails to guys who contacted me until I got more confident). If you want to learn how to date with someone who knows what they're doing, call Dr. Sue!"  –F.C., 31

"Excellent seminar. I learned a lot, and am now dating "smarter". I didn't know what "dating against type" meant, but I came around.  Dr. Sue minces no words about how to find love when you're older, but you have to be ready to take that step, and now I am." S.P., 46

"I thought I knew it all: the available men were losers; they all want someone younger; on and on-- I could have written a book! While this might all be true some of the time, it's not true ALL of the time. Learning about my attachment style was amazing because I saw how I was stopping my own success! Dr. Sue is teaching me how to attract the right men, and how to be a more confident, positive person. She helps me with every aspect of my dating - she even answered my text at 11pm on a Saturday night from a restaurant bathroom!! If you're stuck commiserating with friends in negative group-think, do yourself a favor and stop. Dr. Sue is a so supportive and knows what she's talking about."  –K.S, 42

"Dr. Sue has such an optimistic, "can-do" outlook, and is an amazing coach. I went through a very bitter divorce, but am now feeling empowered and more positive about the possibilities for a new relationship."  –A.U., 45

"Dr. Sue has a wealth of information, strategies, and exercises. Learning to flirt, knowing the red flags, and decoding his body language and conversation really taught me how to have successful first (and subsequent) dates. Three months later my new flirting skills paid off and I seized "a moment". So far so good, and we've been on five wonderful dates!"  –L.T., 39

"Here's my happily-ever-after story: Dr. Sue coached me two years after my husband died when I decided I wanted to have someone special in my life. I almost stopped a few times, because I couldn't get past feelings of guilt and just the thought of starting over with someone new. Dr. Sue is a wonderful coach and teacher, and very sensitive. She helped me figure out what I wanted for myself, instead of telling me the "right" thing to do. If I hadn't stuck it out, I wouldn't have been open to reconnecting with a guy I'd known 15 years ago! We started dating and this year we got married in Santa Barbara. THANK YOU Sue for all your help that opened me up to the possibility of love and that was just the beginning! --L.H., 59

"Hi Dr. Sue! Thanks for your recent presentation to my women's group.  We are a group of single women over 50 that have been meeting monthly for potluck and speakers for almost ten years, and yours was easily one of the most impressive presentations so far!  Your knowledge of the subject of dating over 50 is amazing, and your ability to convey your wisdom in a way that we can easily understand and relate is remarkable.  

We were all uplifted and enriched by meeting you and hearing you speak.  I've been asked by many of the ladies to invite you to return for another gathering, and I hope you will.

Thank you for sharing so generously of your time and wisdom.

My best to you, 
Ellen B."


"I attended Dr. Sue Mandel's workshop on Empowered Dating. She is very upbeat and positive, but also able to understand my fears and worries after having been married for so long and now divorced. After the workshop I scheduled a meeting to discuss individual coaching so that I could have more hand-holding in the beginning months." –C.R., 53

"Sue truly believes that anybody can find love and she inspires hope and confidence. After a long marriage and being widowed for 6 years, it was hard for me to even wrap my head around dating someone new. I'm having the time of my life, feel confident for the first time, and have gone on many promising dates. I only learned about date coaching from a friend who told me about Dr. Sue, but I think it has given me a second chance." G.S., 65

"I was fascinated to learn about my relationship attachment style and how it was connected to my early life experiences. It got in my way of choosing men who were good for me, and I finally understood why my "type" of guy was the exact wrong person. The best part is that I actively could work on changing it, and I now intentionally choose to date men who are better partner material."  –B.A., 37

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"Dr. Sue has been coaching me individually for about five months now, and I made the right choice to get help. I had thrown myself into my career, achieved a lot of success, and woke up on my 44th birthday never married, lonely and depressed. I was clueless about dating, and didn't know if meeting someone was even realistic. Sue helped me clarify what I wanted, and how I could achieve it. I could never figure out what was wrong with me, but I now understand my pattern of feeling great when I first meet someone, then becoming totally anxious that he'll leave or reject me, which causes me to get clingy, and then angry... and of course the guy ends up leaving and I'm devastated. I'm learning to respond differently to myself and my dates, and how to manage my anxieties. Working with Sue is like working with a best friend. She GETS it.  –H.R., 44

My friend dragged me to Dr. Sue's date coaching group and the experience was very positive! I was amazed to learn the scientific evidence that we can literally choose to be happy and the life-changing benefits that come with it." –S.B., 42

"The coaching I've received from Sue Mandel during the last six months has been empowering and energizing! I started out terrified and got on a dating site for a "trial run". At the same time I started working with Sue, I met a wonderful man on the site. We've been dating for 4 months exclusively, and Sue has helped me with everything from not feeling worthy to flirting, being playful, communication, and body language. I'm learning what a loving relationship looks like, and how to articulate and ask for what I need. I am truly grateful to have found Sue Mandel as my coach because she provides a safe space to talk about sensitive subjects that can be difficult to talk about. Sue is not just a coach. She's a girlfriend, cheerleader, and my biggest fan. M.D.S., 55