Make This Your LAST Valentine’s Day Alone: Here’s How

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Make This Your LAST Valentine’s Day Alone: Here’s How

Valentine’s Day is filled with meaning for everyone who cares about love. Often, it’s our relationship status that dictates how we approach the holiday. Like me, your cynical side (maybe rational side?) probably speaks to you about how it’s all media hype; that somehow buying into it is being herded like sheep all the way to your Visa account.

Being single in this love-crazed mentality makes it difficult to feel anything other than disheartened, lonely, and even embarrassed. But being in the wrong relationship is much worse, and we can all be subject to the “grass is always greener” state of mind. So if you have found your way out of a bad marriage or relationship there is a lot to celebrate.

What we all really want is to be in a truly loving relationship--and that is not only possible, it’s probable if you do what it takes.

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6 Ways To Keep Your Cool In Awkward Dating Situations

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6 Ways To Keep Your Cool In Awkward Dating Situations

in the early stages of getting to know someone new, while trying to get through sticky moments (i.e., he gives you a passionate hug and his unintentional body language gives away just how much he likes you!), it's tempting to give in to your fears and let someone who might have been your true love leave your universe.But, regardless of who you end up falling in love with, you won’t get there without a few misfires. So don't give up too quickly.

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Wonder Why You’re Still Single Over 50?

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Wonder Why You’re Still Single Over 50?

Everyone has a theory about why they are still single over 50.  Challenging past relationships, poor role models and even too few fish in the proverbial dating pond top the answers that most of my clients give. Trying to flesh out the real culprit sends lots of people to the self-help aisle and many more to therapy.

But for a question like this, you don’t have to pay your shrink thousands of dollars if you can embrace one simple concept.  The real reason why you’re single won’t be found in another person, it will be found inside of you.  

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11 Secret Tips On How To Find True Love

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11 Secret Tips On How To Find True Love

Women often ask me why it’s so hard for them to find true love? As a therapist for many years (and more recently as a dating coach) I have observed that there are quantifiable differences between women who find true love easily versus those who struggle. The truth is the experience of being single isn’t hard for everyone. Some women embrace it, love it even. Yet others want desperately to change it. And it’s that desperation that causes them to feel frustrated, critical and pessimistic.

The good news is that you don’t have to stay this way. The “secret” about how to find true love is inside of you. It all starts in your head. What you think about always seems to follow it’s way around to your heart. In other words, what you think about will manifest itself in how you feel. Change your thinking and your feelings will follow.

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